How To Ask A Woman Out – This is the way to do it
Hey guys, do you find yourself wishing you could ask out your dream girl? Do you ponder sometimes day and night when you see a girl you really like? Yeah, it happens to many of us.
Some guys are just way to afraid to ask any woman out. And some are just afraid to ask out only beautiful women. But what is it and why are some men just way to afraid to ask out these girls?
I remember going and trying to meet good looking women. I would psych myself up for days, sometimes weeks. I remember sitting in my apartment looking in the mirror, wondering what was wrong with me. Why couldn’t I do it.
I would be out like at the grocery store and I would see a true beauty and I would lay back for a moment. I would start to walk up but then just turn right around, being afraid once again.
Then I started practicing in the mirror and actually got up some courage. So finally, I was at this party with friends and I saw this beautiful woman. And guess what, she was all alone. I felt I could do it this time. After all my practice in the mirror, I actually thought this was the time.
So, I walked over toward this girl very slowly. And what do you know? She started to look at me. I even think she was smiling. The eye connection had happened. So I kept walking and went right up to her.
But, I was at a loss for words. I mean “holy crap”. What the heck was wrong with me? I mean she was starring right at me with a big beautiful smile and I was like “Duh”.
And then she said to me “yes”? And I just sat there with my mouth wide open. “Um” I uttered. And she just kept smiling. And just as about I was finally going to say something, a man came right up and stood next to her.
“who’s this”? He said. And she was like “I don’t know”. So I stood there and it seemed like all time stood still. I had to say something and say it quick. Or else this guy would be like ready to beat me. So I finally got my thoughts together and looked at the two of them and just said “Ah, I’m a close friend of Bob, who’s throwing the party. I just wanted to say hello”.
There I finally said something. I mean crap what the heck was wrong with me?
Listen guys, that was terrible. I mean that was a huge embarrassment. I finally get the courage up and blew it.
Not only that, it was also a huge waste of my time. you see, that’s one of the problems with having issues asking women out. It takes up way too much of your time. It just waste’s it. And it’s time you can never get back.
After this attempt, I mean a few others. The rest were not as bad but, I was let down every single time. One girl was even look at her watch as I asked her out.
I mean, I was asking a girl out in the park while her dog was peeing on my shoe. It was a disaster. And you know what was weird? Every time I thought I was gaining confidence, I was actually losing it and digging myself deeper in a whole.
Yup, that’s it, the truth. I really felt like I was going to have a nervous breakdown. So, I needed to do something and needed to do it soon.
Well, let me tell you guys. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Oh yeah, there really is.
I read this book called “Double Your Dating“. And everything started to fall in place.
But before you even visit that site. I want to give you some tips I learned along the way.
These are the things I actually taught myself as I was making and producing utter failure. Some of these things I also learned from the book. I mean, once I got that book, everything changed. I mean everything.
Ok, so here are some of the tips I learned.
You Have To Be Confident
Trust me on this. A woman can smell a mile away if you have no confidence. They can tell it in your actions, the way you speak, your eye movements and the way you carry yourself.
And guys, most women do not like a guy who has no confidence. To a woman, you seem like a little boy. And although, they may think you are cute and all. You are not dating material, bottom line.
A woman wants a man. And she wants a real man.
So, when going up and asking a girl out, you have to be different. You have to seem like you don’t give a rats butt if you date them or not. This will actually make you seem more interesting.
When you approach a girl you want to ask out. Be different then the pack. Don’t do what everyone else does. Tell a funny joke or, say something else to get there attention. But, whatever you do, don’t ask them out right away.
When walking up to any woman that you want to ask out, you have to keep casual and act coy. You don’t want to come across as too needy.
And do not use the word “I” when talking to a woman for the first time. Especially, when it comes to the asking out part. You need to replace your language and make it more about you and her.
So, instead of asking her out directly, say something like, ” I think it would be cool for us to go get some coffee”. Do you see the difference there? You are not making it about you, you are making it about the two of you.
And the way our human minds process natural language, she will understand better.
And, do not make it like it’s some life changing thing that will happen if she goes out with you. It would just be a cool thing. Do you get where I am coming from guys?
Act As You have Limited Availability
Again, you don’t want to come across as needy or like a guy who is sitting around waiting for the phone to ring. You want to make it look like you are busy and your time is limited.
If you get to the point where she is trying to set up a time, tell her you are busy this week but you have time during the middle of next week.
Guys, you just don’t want to come across as if you just were with your mom and are very needy. You need confidence also. There is a difference between being cocky and confident.
More women are attracted to confident men.